Hello Everyone(s)!
Let me get into a little personal story. Gather 'round...
A couple days ago I was texting back and forth with one of my friends while on Twitter. My friend, (we'll call her K) was telling me that she was waiting for her ex to come over so that she could take a pregnancy test. Before I go any further, let me tell you a lil bit about K.
I met K about...five years ago when we were both still flipping burgers at McDonalds. We were kind of a close knit crew at the job so it took a minute for us to let her in, but once we realized how crazy and fun she was, we became friends.
On top of being crazy, fun, and sweet (I wouldn't say that to her face though lol), K is SO boy crazy, and has an almost “male” outlook on sex and dating most of the time. The stories she tells me sometimes has me clutching my pearls and my bible. I’m always telling her that she has a 20 year old guy trapped inside of her. Anyways, five years later we’re still cool and I consider her to be one of my best friends. However, along with me telling her that she has a man trapped inside of her, I’m also always telling her to BE CAREFUL.
K loves guys/sex so much that her view on safe sex is pretty much “if there’s a condom there I’ll use it, if not, I’mma get it in anyways.” Now, if you’re sure your partner is safe, has been tested and is negative, or if you don’t mind having a little one running around by ALL means do you boo boo {No Katt Williams}. HOWEVER, K’s ex-boyfriend is 1) A jailbird, 2) already has kids he can’t take care of 3) doesn’t have a job and usually has to scrape together bus fare to come see her, 4) K doesn’t want any kids. Oh yeah, and he has to “come see her” because they were living together, but he’d always come up short on rent leaving her with all the responsibility. She hasn't been tested and I HIGHLY doubt he has.
The question I feel like screaming at her is WHY (!!!) is THIS the man you get pregnant by and have to have an abortion (twice!!). What is so hard about using a condom y’all? I mean, like, is it hard to put on? I know they’re expensive, but can you not get like…a whole bag FREE at any health clinic? I have a handful at the house expiring because I don’t have a boo right now! She isn’t a dumb person…but her decision making skills are definitely in question o_O.
This weekend K definitely reminded me why I joined the Red Pump Project and why I started this blog. As I sent the last text telling her to be careful and to let me know how things turned out, I felt a little helpless, but I hope that my work will eventually inspire her to be safer and to care for herself a little more. It may have even inspired me to work a little harder.
